The wife must not allow herself to get upset: The Excellent Wife P/9

                                     Read Part One HERE

In this post I will continue to focus on bible teacher and author Martha Peace. This time we will look at statements from Chapter Nine of her book "The Excellent Wife."


Martha Peace: "It is common for a wife to get aggravated when things do not go her way, when something interferes with her plan, or when she does not feel well."

Martha Peace: "Instead of arrogance, a wife should be a humble servant to her husband and others, listen carefully to his opinion and consider the possibility that she may be wrong or misinformed."

Martha Peace: "Biblical love paints the other person in the best possible light. In other words, the wife shows love to her husband by assuming the worst about what he says or does and his motives. When, at times, the "worst" is a fact then a wife is to order her life and her goals by faith and not by sight. In other words, no matter what her husband has done, a godly loving wife trusts in God's sovereign care over her marriage. She knows that God has a purpose in the circumstances for her. An outgrowth of her hope in God is that her husband will become more and more godly if he is a Christian and perhaps be saved if he is not. She should tell herself things like, "My husband has disappointed me, but God never will. God can use what has happened to put pressure on my husband to repent."

Martha Peace: "The wife sees trials and pressures coming into her life as a special opportunity to become more like the Lord Jesus. She does not usually enjoy those difficult times, but she does endure them with God's help. A wife can choose to show love to God and to her husband as she righteously endures trials and pressures in her marriage."


My Comment

According to Martha Peace, no matter what her husband has done, a godly loving wife trusts in God's sovereign care over her marriage. That is a very dangerous and unbiblical position to take in the case of an abusive husband. God has placed a wife alongside her husband to speak into his life as his equal partner if he does not act right. It is the wife's responsibility to do so, not God's responsibility. However, if speaking is not the right action to take in case it causes the husband to turn on her then the wife must take other appropriate action such as asking for help/advice from other sources, including the police.

Let's take once again Abigail's example. What would have happened if Abigail had not stepped in? We can be certain that there would have been bloodshed (1 Samuel 25:2-38). Perhaps Martha Peace needs to study the number of women that get assaulted/killed by their partners/husbands unless she believes that it must have been God's sovereign will for these women to have been assaulted/killed.

 

Read Part Ten HERE