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Sunday 3 April 2022

My counselor wants me to take my abuser back: Eileen's story P/3

                                                     Read Part one HERE


I will contine to share the story of abuse suffered by Eileen Gray when she was a member of Grace Community Church, Sun Valleu, California, USA, pastored by John MacArthur.

In subsequent counseling sessions with Carey Hardy,  Eileen's husband David presented Hardy with a hand-written four-page list against Eileen and the children. On one of these pages David admits that he "tied up" and "locked up" a child and was not always adequately dressed in the child's presence. Hardy, however, refused to take or read David's list. Hardy has stated, "I am of the opinion that Eileen simply doesn't like David....and is using what she alleges to have happened with the children as leverage to put David out of their lives. She has a tendency to exaggerate and is exercising faulty logic and irrational thinking."

In contrast, according to Hardy, David Gray was fairly "laid back" and after several monitored visits between David and his children "our church concluded that monitors were not necessary."

Eileen stated that she had repeatedly asked Grace Community Church to provide professional counseling for her and David. She was told by Grace Community Church leaders that professional counseling was "worldly" and "wrong."

Hardy counseled Eileen to forgive David "even if he wasn't repentant." He would teach her over and over "the threefold promise of forgiveness" where you act as though it never happened and you never bring it up again and you never tell anyone about it. Hardy also urged her to allow David back into the family's home and to model for the children how "to suffer for Jesus" by enduring David's abuse. Eileen has stated that she was willing to endure abuse herself but she was not willing to allow her children to be abused, so she refused.

 

Read Part Four HERE



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